Try

Ok, seriously, I’m really going to make an effort to post on here more often.  I have a bunch of drafts started but nothing that’s publish worthy. I was all ready to continue with my 31 blog challenge, top 10 favorite songs, when i heard a song on my shuffle and I got really upset. The song is “Try” by Colbie Caillat. I own it. I have listened to it multiple times before, but for whatever reason, when I heard it most recently it actually made me mad. When I got home, I pulled up the video on youtube and watched it.

Here are some of the lyrics:

Put your make up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim
So they like you, do they like you?
You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing
Wait a second,
Why should you care, what they think of you
When you’re all alone, by yourself
Do you like you? Do you like you?
You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing
Take your make up off
Let your hair down
Take a breath
Look into the mirror, at yourself
Don’t you like you?
Cause I like you

If you watch the video, there are multiple women featured. At the beginning they all have a face full of make up, Colbie even has hair extensions in. By the end of the video, they’ve taken all of their make up off and let their hair go wild and free. One woman even takes off her wig to expose her bald head. I understand that the point of the whole song is to ignore what society thinks you should look like and just love who you are. But I have an issue with the way it is portrayed.

I feel like there are two extremes in society. You either try and stay in shape, wear make up, do your hair, wear cute clothes and always look pulled together but you’re only doing it all because that is what society expects of you. On the other hand, if you don’t wear make up or do your hair or pay attention to what you wear, you give off a persona that you don’t care what society thinks of you or that you don’t want to put in the effort to take care of yourself.

I guess my issue with the video is this. The video makes it look like if you wear make up and do your hair and wear cute clothing, you’re only doing it because society tells you to do it. That you should be able to be confident and happy with no make up on and your hair a mess. But what’s wrong with wanting to get yourself all dolled up on a daily basis for yourself? My love for make up and clothing has nothing to do with society. Yes, my choices are molded by what society deems “trendy” or “fashionable” but I feel more comfortable when I’m “done.” It has nothing to do with what society thinks I should look like or how I want to be perceived. I enjoy putting on and wearing make up and wearing cute clothes.

When I look at myself in the mirror naked (not that i’ve done that in a long time), obviously I see flaws, every woman does.  I see more now that I have had a baby. I see hips when I didn’t used to have them. I see fat under my belly button when it used to be flat. My boobs are definitely larger now. I see eyelashes that are barely recognizable because they are so blond, eyebrows that are uneven because I pick them when i’m stressed, bags under my eyes because i have a baby, i’m always tired. I want to fix all of those things. Not because society thinks I should be thinner or put together. Because I feel more comfortable with myself when I have a flat tummy or my thighs don’t touch from my knees up. I know what my body feels like when I am in shape and healthy and I also know what it feels like when I am not in shape. I have never been significantly overweight, but I am certainly not in great shape now.

I guess the point of this blog is this. I love myself. I don’t love the way I look at the moment, but I still love me. When I put make up on and get all dressed up for me, or my husband. But I have never, nor will I ever, make myself look better because that is what society expects of me. I will always do it because I want to do it for me. Am I crazy in thinking that?

Here is the video for you to watch.